Take Action: You can read the magazines GT (Gay Times) and Diva on Zinio using your computer, smartphone, or tablet. You need to have an Oxfordshire library card.
People say I'm gay or say mean things about my gender
If you are a young person who is being bullied because of sexuality (homophobia) or gender (transphobia), whether you identify as LGBT or not, you are not alone.
It's reported by 97% of young LGB people that they regularly hear insulting homophobic remarks at school. (Source: Stonewall, Education for all)
It may be hard to tell parents or teachers that you are being bullied because of gender or sexuality. But it is important not to let people get away with homophobic or transphobic bullying, just because it's difficult to report. Remember:
Homophobic and transphobic bullying is just as unacceptable as any other sort of bullying Why you are being bullied is not important, stopping the bullying is what matters
For more information about bullying or what to do if you are being bullied please visit the Oxme Anti-Bullying Pages.
Homophobia is a word that describes negative attitudes and views or discrimination towards people who identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual. It also includes negative attitudes and views towards people who others assume or think are lesbian, gay or bisexual, whether or not they actually are.
Transphobia is a word that describes negative attitudes and views or discrimination towards people who identify as transsexual and/or transgender. It also includes negative attitudes and views towards people who others assume or think are transsexual and/or transgender whether or not they actually are. The discrimination is based on negative views of gender identity. Discrimination - To discriminate means to treat someone unfairly.
Sex and safer sex
The age of consent for gay men is the same as for heterosexual couples, sixteen. If a woman has sex with a girl under sixteen she can be prosecuted, under different laws.
If you do decide to have sex, you still need to practice safer sex. Homosexual couples don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancy, but still risk transmitting or catching HIV infection and other Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Go to our Sexual health pages to find out more or visit Sexual Health and Contraception Oxfordshire for advice, support and clinic information.
My experience: coping with isolation
Being gay can be quite isolating. I don't live in a big cosmopolitan city, I didn't know anyone else who was, or thought they were gay. Realising there are groups of young gay people, for young gay people, feels really good. You know you're not alone. You know you're going through what they're going through. You know all you have to do is pop along one day and meet them all in total confidentiality, whether you're out or not. No-one's going to phone home, no-one's going to demand your name. There's no pressure to attend and if you live far away, they even pay your travel costs so your parents don't know. I found it really helped. Just making new friends, meeting new people and better than that, it meant I could start being me and doing things I'd always wanted to. It gave me a safe place to go just 'be' gay, however ridiculous that sounds - Anon, Way Out
My friend is trans - what can I do to support them?
When a friend comes out to you as LGBTQ, you might have lots of feelings. You might feel shocked, confused, or even angry that you didn't know sooner! But your feelings are something for you to deal with. What your friend needs is for you to listen, support, understand and be happy for them. It's fine to ask questions, but respect it when they don't want to answer. Everyone's journey is different!
This video can be really helpful if you want to ask questions, but aren't sure if they're too personal. In it people who are trans give answers to questions people have asked on google about being trans.