Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning - find out more about sexuality and gender identity.

This page is for Everyone!

You do not have to be LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning) to look at this page or find out more information.

Crucial: It is estimated that about 10% of people are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

If you or someone you know thinks they might be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender please do not worry. There are many people in the UK who identify as LGBT. If you need to speak to someone about yourself or a friend please see the information at the bottom of this page.

Sexuality - LGB (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual)

Gay men and lesbian women are attracted to people of the same sex.

Bisexual men and women are attracted to people of either sex.

Some people know they are lesbian, gay, or bisexual just as some people know that they are heterosexual, when they begin to have feelings for others. Some people may find that who they are attracted to changes as they grow older, or when they meet new people. Being unsure about who you are attracted to is very common.

Crucial: You can find out more about LGBT+ community and services on the website.

Gender - Transgender

Transgender people identify their gender in line with their inner-self rather than with biological and/or physical features of their body. For example, a transgender man may have been born with female reproductive organs and hormones but internally identifies as being male.

Transgender people may partly or completely transition (change) to become the gender that they identify with. They may change their clothing and appearance as well as change their name in order to identify with their gender. Some transgender people may chose to also have surgery in order to change physical aspects of their body in line with their gender.

Lesbian Couple

I think I might be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender

If you want to talk to someone you can get local help and support. You could:

Talk to a friend or adult that you trust (for example: teacher, youth worker, sports coach) who can offer you support. Get in contact with an LGBT youth group in Oxfordshire which are support groups that run a fun drop-in session. See the contact details below.

Take Action:

Topaz is an LGBT youth group which runs once a month in Abingdon. Email: or or visit the Topaz Website for more info.


My Normal is an LGBT youth group which runs once a month in East Oxford. Email: or visit their Facebook page for more info.


Oxford Pride holds an annual Parade and Festival in May/June with events throughout the year, and have youth officers who you can contact to assist with any enquiries.

My Normal Oxfordshire has made a documentary about being LGBT in Oxfordshire:

My Normal documentary- 2015

Take Action: You can read the magazines GT (Gay Times) and Diva on Zinio using your computer, smartphone, or tablet. You need to have an Oxfordshire library card.

People say I'm gay or say mean things about my gender

If you are a young person who is being bullied because of sexuality (homophobia) or gender (transphobia), whether you identify as LGBT or not, you are not alone.

It's reported by 97% of young LGB people that they regularly hear insulting homophobic remarks at school. (Source: Stonewall, Education for all)

It may be hard to tell parents or teachers that you are being bullied because of gender or sexuality. But it is important not to let people get away with homophobic or transphobic bullying, just because it's difficult to report. Remember:

Homophobic and transphobic bullying is just as unacceptable as any other sort of bullying Why you are being bullied is not important, stopping the bullying is what matters

For more information about bullying or what to do if you are being bullied please visit the Oxme Anti-Bullying Pages.


Homophobia is a word that describes negative attitudes and views or discrimination towards people who identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual. It also includes negative attitudes and views towards people who others assume or think are lesbian, gay or bisexual, whether or not they actually are.

Transphobia is a word that describes negative attitudes and views or discrimination towards people who identify as transsexual and/or transgender. It also includes negative attitudes and views towards people who others assume or think are transsexual and/or transgender whether or not they actually are. The discrimination is based on negative views of gender identity. Discrimination - To discriminate means to treat someone unfairly.

Sex and safer sex

The age of consent for gay men is the same as for heterosexual couples, sixteen.  If a woman has sex with a girl under sixteen she can be prosecuted, under different laws.

If you do decide to have sex, you still need to practice safer sex. Homosexual couples don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancy, but still risk transmitting or catching HIV infection and other Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Go to our Sexual health pages to find out more or visit Sexual Health and Contraception Oxfordshire for advice, support and clinic information.

My experience: coping with isolation

Being gay can be quite isolating. I don't live in a big cosmopolitan city, I didn't know anyone else who was, or thought they were gay. Realising there are groups of young gay people, for young gay people, feels really good. You know you're not alone. You know you're going through what they're going through. You know all you have to do is pop along one day and meet them all in total confidentiality, whether you're out or not. No-one's going to phone home, no-one's going to demand your name. There's no pressure to attend and if you live far away, they even pay your travel costs so your parents don't know. I found it really helped. Just making new friends, meeting new people and better than that, it meant I could start being me and doing things I'd always wanted to. It gave me a safe place to go just 'be' gay, however ridiculous that sounds  - Anon, Way Out

My friend is trans - what can I do to support them?

When a friend comes out to you as LGBTQ, you might have lots of feelings. You might feel shocked, confused, or even angry that you didn't know sooner! But your feelings are something for you to deal with. What your friend needs is for you to listen, support, understand and be happy for them. It's fine to ask questions, but respect it when they don't want to answer. Everyone's journey is different!  

This video can be really helpful if you want to ask questions, but aren't sure if they're too personal. In it people who are trans give answers to questions people have asked on google about being trans. 

Trans People Answer The Most Googled Questions About The Trans Experience


We are been referred to you by the London gender intelligence.
And I was wondering if there was any groups that me and my family can attend as my youngest daughter believes she is transgender and we believe a family group talk with a member of your team would be beneficial to us a a family.
Thank you and look forward to hearing from you.

Hi Sally,

Oxfordshire does not currently have any groups for parents and families of transgender children.The kind of support you are seeking is probably best found by referral through your GP.

Our Anti-Bullying Co-ordinator, Jo Brown, has a few parents she is in contact with regarding transphobic bullying within the county. These parents may be willing to form a support group with you. If you wish to speak to her or take part, her email address is

Mermaids UK is a national organisation which can offer advice and support for parents, and direct support for teens.

MyNormal and TOPAZ are local youth groups for teens which support LGBT+ people.

Oxford Friend is a local organisation which has a phone line and email support for LGBT+ people.

TransOxford is a local group which might also be able to point you towards support.

This should give you enough to get started on. Please don't hesitate to contact us again if you need any more information.

Kind regards,

Ellen Gersh

I've recently come out as transgender but I'm not sure what to do next, could someone help me by pointing me in the right direction?

Thanks for your comment Nick, you may find the NHS Choices page on Gender Dysphoria useful. This explains the first steps towards transitioning. There are also a variety of links on the page to support groups, these are all supportive of transgender individuals, and can provide more information. If you are under 25, I would urge you to get in touch with our local youth groups, which are very supportive and inclusive. You may also find this information on Mermaids UK useful.

Hi again,
Following my last message here.
I want to know how I should explain this to a doctor, I'm unsure of how to approach this, can someone advise me on what is the right thing to say?

Hello Nick,

We would suggest that the best people to talk to would be TransOxford as you will be able to get information from people who have gone through the transitioning process themselves.

Thank you.

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