Somewhere to stay
Some young people feel that they are unable to stay in their family home, but can't afford a place of their own. If there is a risk you might need to leave home, make an emergency plan. Most young people in this situation plan to stay with relatives or trusted friends. This is a good option because:
- it is safe
- you're with people you know and trust
- there are more people to help you sort out the problem
But may not be a long-term solution. As a guest in someone else's house, you can be asked to leave.
To make sure things run smoothly, be considerate and try to contribute to the household as much as possible.You may not have to pay for your room, but you can still offer to help out around the house. Babysitting, washing up, and cleaning are some ways to help.
Crucial: If you think you might need to stay with someone, always try and talk it over with them first. It can also help to talk it through with an adult, like a worker or a school health nurse. You can also drop into Crisis Skylight Oxford any weekday at 2pm if you are at risk of becoming homeless.
You also need to make plans for where you will live long-term. If you are homeless, this might feel less important than sorting out immediate needs. But this is important for your future. Housing groups like Banbury Young Homeless Project, Connections Floating Support, and Crisis Skylight Oxford can help.
You can also get support online or over the phone:
- The Runaway Helpline is free, confidential, and 24/7. Call or text 116 000 they'll listen and offer support, not judge or tell you what to do.
- Childline can talk to you over the phone free and confidential 24/7, 0800 11 11 or get support through 1-2-1 chat with a ChildLine counsellor online.
- Call Shelter's hotline (M-F 8-8, S-Su 8-5) on 0808 800 4444.
Avoid sleeping rough
Don't sleep rough. Plenty of organisations can help you avoid this. Sleeping rough damages your health and exposes you to danger. Phone Shelter's hotline (0808 800 4444) to find an organisation that can help. If you absolutely feel you must:
- Keep warm Wear layers to keep warm, even in summer, and don't sleep directly on the ground. Your risk of getting exposure or hypothermia is high, especially if you are drinking or taking drugs.
- Keep alert All rough sleepers are targets for assault and abuse, including young people, those new to being homeless, women, and young men and girls.
- Keep looking for help At this point in time, nothing matters more than getting off the streets. Go to every advice centre you can find, follow their advice and get off the streets.
Homelessness is bad for you. It's hard to keep relationships or stay healthy. You are at high risk of financial or sexual exploitation. You run a big risk of health problems like infections, depression and drug and alcohol abuse. Aim to stop being homeless as soon as possible.
My Experience: ‘I tried to avoid being homeless’
‘We spoke to a housing officer, someone who deals with homelessness. I was thinking hopefully they’ll help me. But the interview didn’t go well; they told me that they couldn’t help me because I didn’t meet their criteria. There weren’t funds for me to go back to the B+B, so I had to sleep in a tent. I never thought about sleeping rough, it doesn’t seem like a good situation to be in.’
'At last my referral went through and I got a phone call asking me to go for an interview. They asked me all sorts of things: name, address, had I been to prison, did I use drugs, things like that. I had no problems answering the questions because I’ve got nothing to hide. Basically, they offered me a bed there, and I accepted.
The service assigns you a key worker who can work with you to get what you want, help you get a job or get onto a course. You also agree to do certain things, e.g. if you make appointments at the Job Centre, you have to turn up for them. There’s always staff there, if you need someone to talk to, 24/7, even if it’s not your key worker.
At first it was very intense because I’d never really been in that sort of situation, but gradually over the last few weeks I’ve settled in. I’ve started to make a few friends. Things are going better, and I’m going back to college in the autumn to study hairdressing, I’ve got some voluntary work doing flyering, things like that.’ – Ashley, 19