Navigating break ups

We all deal with break-ups differently. But it is common to feel sad or stressed. 

Whether you have broken up with somebody, or have been broken up with, there are lots of ways to help yourself and the other person feel better and move forward.

Instant expert: Childline share tips on starting, maintaining, and ending relationships in a way that looks after everybody's feelings safely. 

Ending relationships in a healthy way

When relationships end, it can come as a surprise. But if you can, it is helpful to have a plan in place and to consider everyone's feelings. 

Here are some things that can help:

• Talking things through 
• Being honest and explaining reasons
• Keeping it simple and planning what you want to say

You don't need to meet up with someone to break up with someone. 

But if you do have a discussion face to face, plan the meeting and stick to the plan. Makes sure someone you trust is aware of the meeting and can help if needed. It is very important that everyone feels safe and listened to. 

It also helps to have a positive plan of things to do afterwards. Things like talking to somebody you trust, doing something you enjoy doing, and spending with friends and family are all helpful.  

Good to know: It can be difficult to know whether to break up with somebody, but The Mix have information and how-to guides on breaking up to help you work out your feelings.

Dealing with a breakup

Being broken up with can be hard, but it can also sometimes be a relief. It is normal to feel a mix of emotions. 

Taking time to look after yourself, and focus on things you like or are interested in can help. Taking time to rest and process emotions is also important. Distracting yourself with other activities can make a real difference.   

Here are some things that can help:

• Spend time with friends and family
• Do the things that you enjoy 
• Talk about how you’re feeling 

It can also be helpful to take time to process your feelings, check in with your wellbeing, and practice self-care.